Thursday, April 22, 2010

Am I alone?

You offend me and I don’t let you go.
I offend you and it’s the first thing you do.

Am I just a sap?

Or am I the more tolerant of the two?

Why on earth should I not let people know when I am offended?

Never mind, I know, it is because in letting you know, I will offend you, and you will write me out of your life.

Perhaps it is time I don’t care so much about hanging on to friends who are just looking for an excuse to cut me out of their lives.

Perhaps I should go looking for less offensive friends, or at least friends who, while they might call me on it, will at least acknowledge I have a right to my feelings and opinions just as they do.

Why am I expected to tolerate theirs, but they refuse to tolerate mine?

Am I alone?


Doozyanner said...

Janie, my first thought about this whole issue was "With friends like that, who needs enemies?" I chose to "unfriend" the person in my FB circle who brought the "joke" to my attention. No malice on my part--we were schoolmates over 30 years ago and have nothing in common other than going to the same small school years ago. I had realized this some time ago when the far right "christian" messages were posted. This latest incident just confirmed that she and I are not friend material. That's the thing about's great fun to connect with some people from the past, and others...oh yeah...we really weren't friends then, were we? My 2 cents Lucy advice? Let the "friend" go with a shrug and a blessing. :-)

Word verification: shetipp
Tell her to shetipp about it!

Doozyanner said...

Oh and...what are the book recommendations you have for me??? I keep coming across accolades for The Story of Edgar Sawtelle and The Girl With the Dragon Tatoo. And I think I must reread Pillars of the Earth. :-)

WV: eptermil
Eptermil be time to read soon!

CMR said...

Wow, that's...

...I don't even know how to respond to that. Except to say, I'm sorry.

And that this other person, sadly, reminds me of my brother.

mags said...

You are not alone. Which you've probably figured out by now.